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Mentoring - Midwife the Mother
Midwife The Mother
How do you feel about prioritising yourself during your pregnancy and postnatal period?
Are you worried that you won’t have any time that is just for you?
Have you thought about your own wellbeing at all?
Do you feel guilty each time you even consider doing something for yourself?
Does the juggle feel too much?
Did you experience anxiety or depression after your other children were born and does it worry you that you will feel this way again?
Do you find it really difficult to ask for help?
I hear you.
As mothers we do too much and we are the worst at making sure that our own needs are met. We have a tendency to put everyone else first. As a result, we become exhausted, frustrated and resentful that all the things we need are neglected.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Putting in place a well thought through and realistic wellbeing plan during your pregnancy or in the first few weeks after your baby is born, gives you a coping strategy to preserve your own self care and sanity during those tougher days when it can be so easily forgotten.
Mothers need to be cared for too. You need to ensure that your own emotional and physical needs are met so that you can cope with the demands a new baby brings without exhausting yourself. Babies are hard work. Don’t underestimate how much you will be giving to your small human. I can help you be one thousand times easier on yourself.
Creating a plan gives you permission to have days where you rest, curl up in a blanket and ask for help. None of these can feel easy when you have a small baby to care for but they are necessary. That’s why having a plan that your partner and others who can help you are aware of is gold dust.
You probably won’t have many babies. Do make sure that you are able to enjoy their early weeks and months.
What you get
- A postnatal wellbeing plan that helps you adjust to becoming a mother. One of the biggest transformations you will ever experience.
- An initial 2 hour in person or Zoom virtual meeting.
- A realistic and bespoke plan that highlights your own postnatal wellbeing.
- A further 1 hour postnatal in person or Zoom catch up review meeting after your baby has been born. Things change and it may be that the plan needs to be revisited.
- Ongoing wellbeing support throughout your fourth trimester.
During our initial 2 hour session we talk.
It’s important that I understand how you feel about your own wellbeing, where you are now and what you want your plan to give you. This time allows us to create a connection and build trust so that you feel safe in freely sharing your parenting hopes and fears. I offer a non-judgemental space. As a parent myself, I know the realities of motherhood and the demands that it places on you. I also know that this can cause you anxiety during your pregnancy - a time when you should be focussing on other things such as staying healthy and your baby’s birth.
During this time we can work out what your main concerns are and how we can ensure that your wellbeing needs are met. Together, we create something that is realistic and achievable around your needs as well as those of your baby and other family members. You may have other responsibilities, such as continuing to run your own business, that we also need to be mindful of. An in depth conversation allows us to get into the nitty gritty of what you really need.
Following our time together, I will create a simple and transformational postnatal care plan for you that works for you and your family. This will include a tool kit of practical things to help with intense emotions and overwhelm as well as simple self care ideas that can be done in the time you will have around your baby.
It is essential that you buy into the plan and commit to your own self care. That’s why partners and other people supporting you are really welcome to join our conversation - encouraged in fact. If your partner also commits to the plan, you will feel less guilty about sticking to it. Experience has shown me that guilt and feeling unable to ask for help often prevents us from looking after ourselves as well as we should. Don’t let them stop you.
‘Self care is giving your family the best of you, instead of what's left of you.’
Your plan could cover:
- postnatal breathing techniques
- bespoke guided relaxations
- self care tips
- gentle recovery yoga (post 6-weeks)
- creating your postnatal headspace
- a listening ear
You also get:
- access to the Mother for Life community of other amazing mums
- access to my extensive knowledge of the maternity and postnatal services and practices here in Birmingham. If I don't know the answer, I will know someone who does. I have a fantastic referral network of other amazing people who can support you such as doulas, physios, lactation consultants.
- ongoing support from me by email or telephone for 3 months from your baby’s birth.
In addition, you are invited to our unique Mother for Life Circle evenings.
These evenings are your chance to be with other like-minded mums and mums-to-be who all want to support other women. They are friendly, informal and we cover a wide variety of topics. You may have something specific that you want to share. You don’t have to. You are always welcome to join and listen to the conversation. Sharing a non-judgemental and supportive space is the most important thing.
We share our wisdom and our experiences in a way that builds a strong community based on trust and respect. The Circle is an essential part of your own self care where your heart opens and you receive the love and support you need. There is nothing else like this in the Midlands.
Click here for more information on the Mother for Life Circle.
Your unique postnatal wellbeing plan, our time together and the ongoing support is £250.00 payable in advance or in agreed installments.
You may feel that you need additional one to one support during your postnatal time.
I offer this in the way of:
- mother healing sessions
- postnatal yoga sessions in your own home
- mother and baby healing sessions
- baby massage in your own home
- healing baby massage to help with specific issue such as birth trauma, colic, welcoming your premature baby
Please follow the links to find out more about each of these.
It is possible for us to put together an extensive postnatal package covering many aspects of your wellbeing. Please book a call with me so that we can talk this through.
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What our mums say...
Mandy is such a positive influence
I went to Mandy's pregnancy yoga class for a block of 8 lessons. I enjoyed it so much that I kept going for another two blocks. You may think you're going for yoga, but it's so much more. Mandy is such a positive influence on how you feel about your pregnancy, birth and parenting. I gained friends, lost any fear of giving birth and am looking forward to joining one of her baby classes with my newborn.
I feel empowered as a pregnant woman and as a future mum
I signed up to the class to get to meet local expectant mums with the side benefit of a nice stretch. I did meet some lovely local mums and found it so helpful to have a space where you could talk about any issues and get advice or support. What really surprised me was how much I valued the yoga and stretching but mostly the breathing exercises. It gave me a toolkit of things to do during pregnancy and also in Labour and has made me feel excited for the birth! Mandy’s affirmations during the rest time have really spoken to me and made me feel empowered as a pregnant woman and as a future mum.
The class was so beneficial to me, to have a space just for me to enjoy my pregnancy and learn about the things I can do in birth to help it be a positive event. Thank you!
Mandy understands that babies have their own minds...
Mandy was extremely friendly and made me feel at ease so quickly. Which was fantastic as I was nervous being the youngest mum in the room. It was good to introduce everybody and nice for Mandy to explain she understands babies have their own minds so if we wanted to we could feed or change nappies just simply watch.
And she really meant it.
Having tea and cake at the end of each session made you stay and engage with the mums. I loved how Mandy explained all the benefits of the different massages e.g. winds/sinuses Oh and one final thing I loved the goody bag! Couldn’t rate the class highly enough.
Absolutely love her classes
I returned to Mandy's pregnancy yoga classes following my second pregnancy as I absolutely loved her classes first time round and made some solid friendships.
Mandy creates such a welcoming and safe environment. She is passionate about ensuring mums and mums to be have a support network alongside the yoga which is so vital. Her classes provide opportunities for open discussion around pregnancy/childbirth/motherhood and no question is out of bounds!
Following the birth of my daughter, I went on to attend baby massage and baby yoga classes, both of which I can thoroughly recommend. Baby massage has given me some really helpful techniques to manage baby's trapped wind and has also helped me deepen the bond with my little ones. Baby yoga was surprisingly more relaxing than I expected! I have made some amazing friendships that have continued post classes. I would definitely recommend Mandy's classes. She is so honest and puts her heart and soul into her classes.
Mandy really encourages everyone
I first attended Mandy’s pregnancy yoga classes when I was pregnant with my first baby, the yoga helped hugely with my pregnancy aches and pains but most of all the support and encouragement from both Mandy and the rest of the group was amazing. Mandy really encourages everyone to engage with each other which wasn’t something that I had experienced in other groups I attended, it meant that I felt safe in asking that daft question or verbalising my fears! I then went on to attend baby massage and postnatal yoga with my first baby and again the support and ability to engage with other new moms was fantastic! I have recently had my second baby and attended pregnancy yoga, whilst I had less concerns and worries about pregnancy and birth the classes gave me a dedicated hour to have just for me...which was so important and you don’t get much time to yourself when you are running around after a toddler! I am now attending postnatal yoga and although this is having to be done via zoom Mandy has continued to provide a safe environment and an opportunity to engage with other Moms! Thank you Mandy you help me keep my sanity!
Every class provides a relaxed and friendly environment
I first attended baby massage classes when my son was 3 months old, and then went on to do mum and baby yoga, and I’m on my 4th block of classes now (my son is now 9 months old!) Every class provides a relaxed and friendly environment, great yoga for post pregnancy, focussing on pelvic floor exercises and breathing, and a general feel good hour where you can forget about the outside world. The cake and tea are a bonus at the end of the classes and I have met some really lovely moms through attending. Mandy has a special gift at teaching and she never fails to create a relaxed environment for the babies, who all seem fixated by her presence. I am so glad I found her classes as Wednesdays are my favourite days of the week! Cannot recommend enough.
I did want to say thank you. Your classes are fantastic - you explain everything so clearly and know which achy bits to work on. It has made me think that I should find a ‘normal’ (ie not postnatal) yoga class post-lockdown, but finding the time will be a big challenge! I also think that what you do for mums is great and I hope that you will be able to start your classes in person again soon. If I come across any mums to be or new mums I will certainly recommend you, although Arlo was a late (and very happy) addition to our family and most of the mums I know have kids at school now. That’s been another positive for me actually - being able to connect with people going through the baby/pregnancy stage as otherwise it would have been very easy to neglect that side of my life with the demands of having other young children. One of the unforeseen bonuses of Mandy's classes was that my baby always slept for three hours afterwards!
SO glad I'd found Mandy and her classes
I had previously been to a few different yoga classes and found them a bit intense and not what I was looking for. I heard about Mandy's prenatal yoga classes through a friend and it sounded just what I was looking for. From the first session I was SO glad I'd found Mandy and her classes. They are way more than a yoga class - meditation, breathing exercises, relaxation and a chance to chat to other expectant mums and soak in Mandy's wisdom. The jammie dodgers are a welcome bonus to the class too! Since lockdown the classes were via zoom and this worked really well and I still had the same sense of connection and relaxation I got from the in person class. Between classes I also did Mandy's yoga sessions on her website which really helped me stay relaxed and helped my aches and pains. I also made sure I regularly listened to her audio relaxations which helped me stay calm and grounded in those final weeks. Above all of this, Mandy has been a wonderful support and checked in with me after the birth of my daughter and during our hospital stay - Mandy really does go above and beyond and puts out some brilliant online content. I can't thank her enough!