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Virtual Christmas Party

Virtual Christmas Party

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I'm writing this to you at 08:07 on Sunday morning. I've been awake since 5:30am because I woke up needing a wee - sorry, oversharing! Wee completed, I snuck back into bed and I just couldn't get back to sleep. My brain was awake. She went into complete overload about everything I need to do today:
- change beds
- ironing
- write our Love Note
- go for a run
- address and post cards
- cook tea
- reply to emails
- build furniture
- check what I've already bought the girls for Christmas
- be a mum
- be a wife
- call my parents
- wash floors
..... and so it goes on.

Typically, I felt myself drifting off as the alarm went at 7am - Keri was up heading out for an early bike ride. Believe me, even when your children stay in bed until 9/10am - you won't!

I'm in the kitchen, waiting for it to get light and for the rain to stop for a little bit so that I can head out for a run.

I bet your daily list looks a bit like mine. Notice that there is very little rest and switch off time in there. I have my run. My runs keep me sane. Seriously, if it weren't for my runs, I would be completely bonkers and anxious most of the time.

My runs are where I hold space for me and, when I run with my friends, we hold space for each other. We talk, we rant, we share. It's where I'm able to bounce ideas of people who have known me for quite a while. There is something about the steady pace of a run that means you talk more openly. I think it might be because you move from your head into your body and is easier to talk from the heart then. 

I chat to myself about all kinds of things when I run. It's definitely when I have my best thoughts and when I put things into perspective. I'll head out after I've written this Note. Even if it's still pouring with rain, I know that the being away from my four walls will help me work out a plan of action.

Who holds this kind of space for you because you are holding it for your family all the time?

I don't want you thinking that you need to be running or leaving your house to find it. My run might be your read or knit or yoga or listening to a podcast. All it is is undisturbed space for you. When do you get this?

I kind of fell out with the girls the other morning when I dropped them off for school. They were grumpy. In fairness, they are not grumpy that often but this morning they were pretty unpleasant. I would usually take the role of chief happiness creator to make sure that they were smiling when they left the car. Not that morning. I was tired and worried about something. I'd had enough of holding that space in the car for them EVERY morning on the school run. I just didn't want to do it. My emotional energy wasn't strong enough. I pulled up at school and told them to just leave. I'd had enough of being responsible for how they felt. 

Do you know what? They were surprised. A little taken aback but they survived. The were ever so kind to me that evening. A little role shifting never hurts.

It is ok to let go of control over space in order to protect your own. Let someone else be the peace-maker or the bedtime story reader or the grocery shopper once in a while so that you have some time that is yours.

I know that this isn't easy. Undisturbed space can feel almost impossible to achieve but it isn't if you plan a little ahead or grab opportunities when they arise. You need to love yourself lots because you give so much of that love away to your family and friends. Your babies still know you love them. If you have older children, you are showing them healthy boundaries and being a role model. 

Space holding can be exhausting. It is also amazing. It definitely feels more amazing when you come at it with energy and va va voom. 

Please fill yourself with love so that you can draw from this when you hold space for your family. I say this lots but you are their safe space. You are the one they come to when they feel wobbly because you make everything feel better. Just check that you have a similar space to retreat to when you need it.

 


VIRTUAL CHRISTMAS PARTY 
This is the perfect time for you to let me hold a little space for you.
Thursday 17 December at 11am until noon.
Here are the Zoom details: Christmas Party Zoom Link
I will be wearing my Christmas jumper, possibly some poppy things on my head and my dangly Christmas earrings. Please join in the festive fun and I'm pretty sure that you must have at least one Christmas outfit for your baby!

Christmas

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What our mums say...

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Mandy really encourages everyone

I first attended Mandy’s pregnancy yoga classes when I was pregnant with my first baby, the yoga helped hugely with my pregnancy aches and pains but most of all the support and encouragement from both Mandy and the rest of the group was amazing. Mandy really encourages everyone to engage with each other which wasn’t something that I had experienced in other groups I attended, it meant that I felt safe in asking that daft question or verbalising my fears! I then went on to attend baby massage and postnatal yoga with my first baby and again the support and ability to engage with other new moms was fantastic! I have recently had my second baby and attended pregnancy yoga, whilst I had less concerns and worries about pregnancy and birth the classes gave me a dedicated hour to have just for me...which was so important and you don’t get much time to yourself when you are running around after a toddler! I am now attending postnatal yoga and although this is having to be done via zoom Mandy has continued to provide a safe environment and an opportunity to engage with other Moms! Thank you Mandy you help me keep my sanity!

Ann-Marie

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SO glad I'd found Mandy and her classes

I had previously been to a few different yoga classes and found them a bit intense and not what I was looking for. I heard about Mandy's prenatal yoga classes through a friend and it sounded just what I was looking for. From the first session I was SO glad I'd found Mandy and her classes. They are way more than a yoga class - meditation, breathing exercises, relaxation and a chance to chat to other expectant mums and soak in Mandy's wisdom. The jammie dodgers are a welcome bonus to the class too! Since lockdown the classes were via zoom and this worked really well and I still had the same sense of connection and relaxation I got from the in person class. Between classes I also did Mandy's yoga sessions on her website which really helped me stay relaxed and helped my aches and pains. I also made sure I regularly listened to her audio relaxations which helped me stay calm and grounded in those final weeks. Above all of this, Mandy has been a wonderful support and checked in with me after the birth of my daughter and during our hospital stay - Mandy really does go above and beyond and puts out some brilliant online content. I can't thank her enough!

Georgina

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I feel empowered as a pregnant woman and as a future mum

I signed up to the class to get to meet local expectant mums with the side benefit of a nice stretch.  I did meet some lovely local mums and found it so helpful to have a space where you could talk about any issues and get advice or support. What really surprised me was how much I valued the yoga and stretching but mostly the breathing exercises. It gave me a toolkit of things to do during pregnancy and also in Labour and has made me feel excited for the birth! Mandy’s affirmations during the rest time have really spoken to me and made me feel empowered as a pregnant woman and as a future mum.

 The class was so beneficial to me, to have a space just for me to enjoy my pregnancy and learn about the things I can do in birth to help it be a positive event. Thank you!

Emma

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Mandy understands that babies have their own minds...

Mandy was extremely friendly and made me feel at ease so quickly. Which was fantastic as I was nervous being the youngest mum in the room. It was good to introduce everybody and nice for Mandy to explain she understands babies have their own minds so if we wanted to we could feed or change nappies just simply watch.

And she really meant it. 

Having tea and cake at the end of each session made you stay and engage with the mums.  I loved how Mandy explained all the benefits of the different massages e.g. winds/sinuses  Oh and one final thing I loved the goody bag! Couldn’t rate the class highly enough.

Leanne

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Mandy is such a positive influence

I went to Mandy's pregnancy yoga class for a block of 8 lessons. I enjoyed it so much that I kept going for another two blocks. You may think you're going for yoga, but it's so much more. Mandy is such a positive influence on how you feel about your pregnancy, birth and parenting. I gained friends, lost any fear of giving birth and am looking forward to joining one of her baby classes with my newborn.

Aswalia

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Every class provides a relaxed and friendly environment

I first attended baby massage classes when my son was 3 months old, and then went on to do mum and baby yoga, and I’m on my 4th block of classes now (my son is now 9 months old!) Every class provides a relaxed and friendly environment, great yoga for post pregnancy, focussing on pelvic floor exercises and breathing, and a general feel good hour where you can forget about the outside world. The cake and tea are a bonus at the end of the classes and I have met some really lovely moms through attending. Mandy has a special gift at teaching and she never fails to create a relaxed environment for the babies, who all seem fixated by her presence. I am so glad I found her classes as Wednesdays are my favourite days of the week! Cannot recommend enough.

Gee

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Absolutely love her classes

I returned to Mandy's pregnancy yoga classes following my second pregnancy as I absolutely loved her classes first time round and made some solid friendships. 
Mandy creates such a welcoming and safe environment. She is passionate about ensuring mums and mums to be have a support network alongside the yoga which is so vital. Her classes provide opportunities for open discussion around pregnancy/childbirth/motherhood and no question is out of bounds!
Following the birth of my daughter, I went on to attend baby massage and baby yoga classes, both of which I can thoroughly recommend. Baby massage has given me some really helpful techniques to manage baby's trapped wind and has also helped me deepen the bond with my little ones. Baby yoga was surprisingly more relaxing than I expected! I have made some amazing friendships that have continued post classes. I would definitely recommend Mandy's classes. She is so honest and puts her heart and soul into her classes. 

Suzanne

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Fantastic!

I did want to say thank you. Your classes are fantastic - you explain everything so clearly and know which achy bits to work on. It has made me think that I should find a ‘normal’ (ie not postnatal) yoga class post-lockdown, but finding the time will be a big challenge! I also think that what you do for mums is great and I hope that you will be able to start your classes in person again soon. If I come across any mums to be or new mums I will certainly recommend you, although Arlo was a late (and very happy) addition to our family and most of the mums I know have kids at school now. That’s been another positive for me actually - being able to connect with people going through the baby/pregnancy stage as otherwise it would have been very easy to neglect that side of my life with the demands of having other young children. One of the unforeseen bonuses of Mandy's classes was that my baby always slept for three hours afterwards!

Beth