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Is There Anybody Out There?

Is There Anybody Out There?

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Sorry for the bold headline but if you don't open these emails, Mailchimp will eventually delete you from my list and you won't get them at all. Also, they are good. I pour my little soul into them each week and I believe that they make a difference. Thank you so much if you are a regular opener. I love you!!

I have found it tough this week? How about you?

I've lacked energy and been quite emotional at times. I cried in the car this morning at a version of World In Union playing on the radio. I looked a right state sitting at the traffic lights on the Bristol Road. I haven't even been that motivated for my run.

And, do you know what? I haven't really fought it. I've given myself permission to be down and tired. I kicked off about the fact that no-one cooks in the week but me and I had a real rant at Keri that no-one here really appreciates that I work very hard to make a difference in everything I do. I felt very unappreciated and unheard. In fairness to him, we have arranged time tomorrow evening to sort out a song playlist and have a proper chat. Good job he's a keeper I guess! And, he does have a very poorly back which is completely getting him down.

What do you do when you feel like the unpaid help?

I always have a rant. I am a believer in a good old rant just as I believe in a good old cry. Ranting is a short term solution - well, it makes my girls load the dishwasher at least for that day! Ranting releases stress. I also recommend standing in the garden or an empty room and having a good shout. Singing works well too. Anything that goes rid of pent up emotion. 

Ranting is cathartic but it doesn't really get to the bottom of the issue. I'm ok for a while and then I get fed up again in a few weeks. Talking is much better. It's brave but also beautiful when you communicate how you feel. Try not to do it when you are in a ranty mood as it doesn't come across well - I know from experience. Practice what you want to say and speak with kindness. Keri is having a tough time with his back at the moment so he needs a sympathetic ear too. Luckily, I've calmed down a bit! I'm sure no-one intended to make you feel this way.

Love yourself. You are amazing and you don't need someone else telling you this. Know it yourself. Yes, it's lovely when someone says thank you or drops you a kind note but we are all busy and people simply forget. I often intend to message people and then life gets in the way. Be confident in who you are and in what you do - not because you want thanks for it every time - but because they give shape and expression to who you are. If you cannot think of any - you need to do start finding them pretty sharpish. Don't lose sight of yourself.

Get help when you can. Can you get a cleaner? Can you order take-out once a week? Does everything need ironing? Can your partner do bath time more often? it is ok to delegate and look after yourself. They might not do it as well as you but it means you are not doing it for once.  Do you need a coach? Do you need to seek out a therapist? I've seen both and they made a massive difference.

Breathe and smile. They're not that bad really.

Go back to acceptance. Remember last week's note? Once you accept that some things have to get done and you are the one to do them, you might not feel so annoyed about not being thanked. Cooking tea whilst singing very loudly is fun! Often, people simply forget. Look at it objectively, do you remember to always say thank you?

I know that you are not unappreciated - you do too when you really think about it. Your family would be stumbling around if it weren't for you - think of the chaos that would ensue. They love you very much. Perhaps a gentle nudge to remind them they need to value you wouldn't go amiss. Try to do it with a smile!

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What our mums say...

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Mandy understands that babies have their own minds...

Mandy was extremely friendly and made me feel at ease so quickly. Which was fantastic as I was nervous being the youngest mum in the room. It was good to introduce everybody and nice for Mandy to explain she understands babies have their own minds so if we wanted to we could feed or change nappies just simply watch.

And she really meant it. 

Having tea and cake at the end of each session made you stay and engage with the mums.  I loved how Mandy explained all the benefits of the different massages e.g. winds/sinuses  Oh and one final thing I loved the goody bag! Couldn’t rate the class highly enough.

Leanne

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SO glad I'd found Mandy and her classes

I had previously been to a few different yoga classes and found them a bit intense and not what I was looking for. I heard about Mandy's prenatal yoga classes through a friend and it sounded just what I was looking for. From the first session I was SO glad I'd found Mandy and her classes. They are way more than a yoga class - meditation, breathing exercises, relaxation and a chance to chat to other expectant mums and soak in Mandy's wisdom. The jammie dodgers are a welcome bonus to the class too! Since lockdown the classes were via zoom and this worked really well and I still had the same sense of connection and relaxation I got from the in person class. Between classes I also did Mandy's yoga sessions on her website which really helped me stay relaxed and helped my aches and pains. I also made sure I regularly listened to her audio relaxations which helped me stay calm and grounded in those final weeks. Above all of this, Mandy has been a wonderful support and checked in with me after the birth of my daughter and during our hospital stay - Mandy really does go above and beyond and puts out some brilliant online content. I can't thank her enough!

Georgina

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I feel empowered as a pregnant woman and as a future mum

I signed up to the class to get to meet local expectant mums with the side benefit of a nice stretch.  I did meet some lovely local mums and found it so helpful to have a space where you could talk about any issues and get advice or support. What really surprised me was how much I valued the yoga and stretching but mostly the breathing exercises. It gave me a toolkit of things to do during pregnancy and also in Labour and has made me feel excited for the birth! Mandy’s affirmations during the rest time have really spoken to me and made me feel empowered as a pregnant woman and as a future mum.

 The class was so beneficial to me, to have a space just for me to enjoy my pregnancy and learn about the things I can do in birth to help it be a positive event. Thank you!

Emma

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Mandy is such a positive influence

I went to Mandy's pregnancy yoga class for a block of 8 lessons. I enjoyed it so much that I kept going for another two blocks. You may think you're going for yoga, but it's so much more. Mandy is such a positive influence on how you feel about your pregnancy, birth and parenting. I gained friends, lost any fear of giving birth and am looking forward to joining one of her baby classes with my newborn.

Aswalia

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Fantastic!

I did want to say thank you. Your classes are fantastic - you explain everything so clearly and know which achy bits to work on. It has made me think that I should find a ‘normal’ (ie not postnatal) yoga class post-lockdown, but finding the time will be a big challenge! I also think that what you do for mums is great and I hope that you will be able to start your classes in person again soon. If I come across any mums to be or new mums I will certainly recommend you, although Arlo was a late (and very happy) addition to our family and most of the mums I know have kids at school now. That’s been another positive for me actually - being able to connect with people going through the baby/pregnancy stage as otherwise it would have been very easy to neglect that side of my life with the demands of having other young children. One of the unforeseen bonuses of Mandy's classes was that my baby always slept for three hours afterwards!

Beth

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Every class provides a relaxed and friendly environment

I first attended baby massage classes when my son was 3 months old, and then went on to do mum and baby yoga, and I’m on my 4th block of classes now (my son is now 9 months old!) Every class provides a relaxed and friendly environment, great yoga for post pregnancy, focussing on pelvic floor exercises and breathing, and a general feel good hour where you can forget about the outside world. The cake and tea are a bonus at the end of the classes and I have met some really lovely moms through attending. Mandy has a special gift at teaching and she never fails to create a relaxed environment for the babies, who all seem fixated by her presence. I am so glad I found her classes as Wednesdays are my favourite days of the week! Cannot recommend enough.

Gee

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Absolutely love her classes

I returned to Mandy's pregnancy yoga classes following my second pregnancy as I absolutely loved her classes first time round and made some solid friendships. 
Mandy creates such a welcoming and safe environment. She is passionate about ensuring mums and mums to be have a support network alongside the yoga which is so vital. Her classes provide opportunities for open discussion around pregnancy/childbirth/motherhood and no question is out of bounds!
Following the birth of my daughter, I went on to attend baby massage and baby yoga classes, both of which I can thoroughly recommend. Baby massage has given me some really helpful techniques to manage baby's trapped wind and has also helped me deepen the bond with my little ones. Baby yoga was surprisingly more relaxing than I expected! I have made some amazing friendships that have continued post classes. I would definitely recommend Mandy's classes. She is so honest and puts her heart and soul into her classes. 

Suzanne

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Mandy really encourages everyone

I first attended Mandy’s pregnancy yoga classes when I was pregnant with my first baby, the yoga helped hugely with my pregnancy aches and pains but most of all the support and encouragement from both Mandy and the rest of the group was amazing. Mandy really encourages everyone to engage with each other which wasn’t something that I had experienced in other groups I attended, it meant that I felt safe in asking that daft question or verbalising my fears! I then went on to attend baby massage and postnatal yoga with my first baby and again the support and ability to engage with other new moms was fantastic! I have recently had my second baby and attended pregnancy yoga, whilst I had less concerns and worries about pregnancy and birth the classes gave me a dedicated hour to have just for me...which was so important and you don’t get much time to yourself when you are running around after a toddler! I am now attending postnatal yoga and although this is having to be done via zoom Mandy has continued to provide a safe environment and an opportunity to engage with other Moms! Thank you Mandy you help me keep my sanity!

Ann-Marie